But then, the truth was never really the point. Thin women don’t tell their fat friends ‘You’re not fat’ because they’re confused about the dictionary definition of the word, or their eyes are broken, or they were raised on planets where size 24 is the average for women. They don’t say it because it’s the truth. They say it because fat does not mean just fat in this culture. It can also mean any or all of the following:
Just plain icky
So when they say ‘You’re not fat,’ what they really mean is ‘You’re not a dozen nasty things I associate with the word fat.’ The size of your body is not what’s in question; a tape measure or a mirror could solve that dispute. What’s in question is your goodness, your lovability, your intelligence, your kindness, your attractiveness. And your friends, not surprisingly, are inclined to believe you get high marks in all those categories. Ergo, you couldn’t possibly be fat.
Anonymous said: I believe all people deserve to be happy and appreciate their body, of course they do, but I weight 190lbs and am extremely unhappy with my weight. I always cover up during sex and wear baggish clothes when I go out. I was just wandering how did you get so much confidence for yourself? I love it, I wish I had the same confidence and self love.
The journey to confidence and self love wasn’t an easy one, but looking at body positive blogs, reading books like Dr Linda Bacon’s Health at Every Size, and having supportive friends certainly helped. I have also seen a therapist and talked about why I was feeling so unhappy within my body (because of mean comments from others about my body), and voicing it out loud made me realise that it’s other people who have the problem, not me. I know for a fact that I am in great health, I eat healthfully and listen to my body telling me what it is that it requires (for me, I feel great when I eat lots of fresh fruit and vegetables, and yucky when I eat processed food, dairy and gluten) and I wear clothes that I feel comfortable in.
Re: sex - remember that your partner is having sex with you because they find you attractive. As you become more comfortable with your body, you’ll start to become less concerned with whether your jiggly bits are jiggling during sex, and everything will become way more fun!
Today was the first day in awhile I didn’t feel completely consumed by this dark abyss that’s seems to have swallowed me whole.
My mind, my body, everything, I won’t ever let myself judge again. For it is those judgements, those thoughts, those negative feelings toward myself that bring me so far away from where I’ve already come. I must remember to love myself, even when it seems so far away.
I can’t forget:
In the face of Oneness, judgement seems meaningless.
In the face of Oneness, Love seems endless.
i was just looking at rue 107's site because, strangely, there's like 2 seconds in the video for 'flawless' (by beyonce, if you are a corpse or time traveler from the past who JUST got here) where she has on these fishnet-y mermaid-y bikini bottoms that i really like, and someone commented…
Hey look! wtfplus mentioned me and moi fave babe Chubby Cartwheels! Day = made.
Hey everyone, in case you didn’t know I have been nominated for an international blogging award. This is a pretty big deal because I am not just the only person from New Zealand in the competition, I’m also New Zealand’s only form of dedicated plus size media. If I win, one of the amazing prizes is a trip to London (and I’d get to go to London Fashion Week). I’m really passionate about body positivity and fashion for plus size women, and I think that New Zealand women are seriously underrepresented in terms of plus size fashion and acceptance and awareness, so PLEASE vote for me and share this with your friends so that they can vote too - voting closes in a few hours, and I need to finish in the top 10 to make it to the next round (I’m currently in 12th place).
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I’m super excited to introduce the final project I’ve been working on for my degree: Fat Girls Shouldn’t Wear Stripes. Find out about it here, and be prepared for some fashionable body positivity .
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Tess Munster !!!
Not Tess Munster! This is just me. I’d love the chance to hang out with/photograph/model with Tess though, she’s amazing.